169: Parenting, Tantra & Kink: How Pleasure, Presence & Play Can Transform Modern Parenting

In this transformative episode of Girls Gone Deep, hosts V. and Elle welcome Leora, a pleasure coach, mother, and facilitator at the intersection of kink, tantra, and trauma-informed somatics. The conversation dismantles the false dichotomy between parenting and sexual liberation, revealing how pleasure, presence, and play—central to kink and tantra—can profoundly enhance parenting. Leora shares her journey from post-divorce self-discovery to embracing pleasure as a tool for emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and authentic self-expression. She emphasizes that parenting is not about perfection but about attunement, discernment, and creating safe containers where children can experience big emotions without shame. The hosts and guest explore how skills from BDSM—like negotiation, aftercare, and energetic presence—directly translate to parenting, fostering emotional intelligence, resilience, and connection. They advocate for redefining parenting as a joyful, embodied practice rooted in pleasure, not just responsibility, and encourage parents to reclaim their own pleasure as a foundation for better family dynamics.