What’s the Right Way to Approach Someone IRL?

In this episode of 'U Up?', hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Freed dive into the complexities of real-life social interactions, starting with a humorous yet insightful reflection on public recognition and the performative nature of attention—sparked by a viral Costco duo who turned themselves into walking billboards. The conversation shifts to a deeper exploration of social media's psychological toll, particularly Instagram's rumored paid feature allowing users to secretly view stories and track rewatchers. The hosts express concern over how such tools erode privacy, amplify insecurity, and contribute to a culture of surveillance and emotional manipulation. They reflect on personal experiences, including how Instagram story views affected their own relationships, and lament the loss of mystery and spontaneity in human connection. The episode then transitions to two listener emails: one about a friend’s passive-aggressive comments about engagement timelines, and another about a man approaching a woman in a park while she’s on a call with her partner. The hosts debate the ethics and etiquette of in-person approaches, advocating for authenticity over performative confidence, while acknowledging the real risks involved. Ultimately, they champion the courage to connect in person—despite awkwardness—while urging for thoughtful, respectful initiation over objectifying or invasive language.