The Side B Trap: Why “Gay Christian” Is Not the Freedom Christ Offers | ATT#222
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In this powerful episode of All The Things, Monique Dusson and Krista Bontrager welcome Brady Cohn, a former same-sex attracted Christian who shares his transformative journey from shame and suicidal ideation to a life of discipleship, marriage, and ministry. Brady critiques the 'Side B' approach—where individuals identify as 'gay Christians' while remaining celibate—arguing that it perpetuates a false identity, fosters isolation, and ultimately leads people away from the church and deeper into sin. He emphasizes that biblical sexuality is not about fixed orientation but about sanctification, where God transforms the heart over time. The conversation unpacks how Side B theology, rooted in modern psychology rather than Scripture, undermines the gospel’s power to redeem and transform. The hosts and Brady also offer practical guidance for parents, youth leaders, and church leaders on how to walk alongside LGBTQ+ individuals with grace, truth, and long-term discipleship, focusing on Christ-centered identity and the deeper lies that fuel sexual struggles. A major theme is the need for the church to reclaim biblical language and theology over cultural narratives.
Side B theology, while appearing compassionate, defines identity by unchangeable feelings and leads to spiritual stagnation and isolation.
True freedom comes not from accepting same-sex attraction as part of one’s identity, but from allowing God to sanctify and transform the heart over time.
The church must reject cultural language like 'orientation' and 'gay Christian' in favor of biblical terms that root identity in Christ alone.
Discipleship must be long-term and holistic—addressing the heart, not just behavior—especially for those struggling with sexuality.
Parents and youth leaders should not define a child’s identity by their sexuality but instead build a foundation of Christ-centered identity and trust in God’s redemptive power.
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Welcome Back & New Season Launch
Monique and Krista welcome listeners back after a break, share personal updates including Monique’s move to Phoenix, and introduce the new Monday 6 PM time slot. They preview the season’s focus on justice and announce the upcoming launch of the Center for Biblical Unity’s Ambassadors for Biblical Justice program.
Brady Cohn’s Personal Journey: From Shame to Surrender
“I actually went home that night, and I loaded a gun. I was going to commit suicide because I thought that God wanted all homosexuals to die. And thankfully, by the grace of God, I didn't push the trigger on the gun, and I'm still here today.”
The Lie of Identity: You Are Not Defined by Your Feelings
“We as Christians, we know that our hearts are deceitful. So not all of our feelings are good or healthy or holy or come from God. Some of it is our heart tempting us.”
Deconstructing the Side B Approach
“I've actually, again, repeatedly see it move guys towards homosexuality instead of away from it.”
The Dangers of Side B: Isolation, Hopelessness, and Church Division
“You're just playing with fire. And so in my observation, celibate gay relationships don't stay celibate for long because you are emotionally connecting yourself in a romantic way that is unhealthy, unholy and sinful.”
“I actually went home that night, and I loaded a gun. I was going to commit suicide because I thought that God wanted all homosexuals to die. And thankfully, by the grace of God, I didn't push the trigger on the gun, and I'm still here today.”
“You're just playing with fire. And so in my observation, celibate gay relationships don't stay celibate for long because you are emotionally connecting yourself in a romantic way that is unhealthy, unholy and sinful.”
“I've actually, again, repeatedly see it move guys towards homosexuality instead of away from it.”
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Krista Bontrager
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