Still Grieving Years Later? You’re Not Doing It Wrong

This episode of Everyone Dies explores the profound and often misunderstood experience of grieving in the fifth year after a loved one's death. Host Marianne Matzow, a nurse practitioner with 48 years of experience, and actor Charlie Navarette discuss how grief doesn't follow a linear timeline, and that emotional waves can resurface unexpectedly—even years later—without indicating anything is wrong. Drawing from personal stories, including a blog by Christy from North Pittsburgh and Charlie’s own experience with the murder of his son Michael, the episode emphasizes that grief is not a sign of failure but a testament to deep love. Practical advice is offered, from screaming in your car to journaling gratitude, walking in nature, and allowing space for ugly cries. The episode also features a surprising look at funeral music trends, including the unexpected popularity of the Jaws theme, and a reflective poem by Wendell Berry about meeting a deceased friend in a dream. The overarching message is that time doesn’t heal grief—it’s what you do with time that matters, and self-compassion is essential.