You've Got Decisions: Are We ENM Because I’m More Experienced ?

The episode opens with a promotional segment for the podcast 'Snafu' before diving into a listener's complex relationship dilemma: 'Are We Ethically Non-Monogamous Because I'm More Experienced?' The listener recounts healing from a traumatic breakup where she was called 'fat and unattractive,' leading her to engage in casual sex with multiple partners, including a lesbian couple. She later entered a relationship with a man who had only slept with three people, including his high school sweetheart. After a three-month breakup during which they remained sexually involved and she became a 'unicorn' for two other couples, they reconnected and agreed to an ethically non-monogamous arrangement. However, she now feels that her greater sexual experience makes her feel superior, and she suspects her partner is trying to 'keep up' rather than genuinely embracing the dynamic. The hosts, Wheezy and Mandy, challenge her perspective, arguing that being a 'unicorn' doesn't equate to true experience in maintaining ethical non-monogamy with one partner. They highlight her unresolved trauma, the imbalance in emotional maturity, and the potential danger of using sexual exploration as a healing mechanism. The hosts emphasize that ethical non-monogamy requires clear boundaries, communication, and emotional safety—elements the listener may not yet have developed. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to submit their own dilemmas.