Brief: The Book Men Actually Need

In this episode of Conspirituality Brief, host Derek Barris makes a compelling case for why Corinne Lowe's book *Having It All: What Data Tells Us About Women's Lives and How to Get the Most Out of Yours* should be required reading for all men, especially young ones. Drawing a sharp contrast with Scott Galloway’s *Notes on Being a Man*, Barris highlights how Galloway’s advice—while offering some sound economic policy suggestions—falls short in addressing gender equity, particularly in relationships and domestic labor. He critiques the manosphere’s toxic masculinity and the broader cultural narrative that frames male struggles as the primary crisis, arguing instead that women face a systemic 'squeeze' from balancing ambitious careers with disproportionate domestic responsibilities. Using data from Lowe’s research, Barris illustrates how women continue to bear the invisible mental and physical load of household management, even when they are the primary earners. He champions Lowe’s pragmatic, data-driven approach to relationships, work, and policy, advocating for tools like spreadsheets to track labor equity and systemic reforms such as use-it-or-lose-it paternity leave and provider-neutral childcare subsidies. The episode concludes with a call for men to read Lowe’s book not just to understand women’s experiences, but to become better partners, fathers, and allies in building a fairer society.