We’re Broken Up But She Still Calls Like We’re Together. What Can I Do?

Coach Corey Wayne addresses a listener's complex post-breakup situation where his ex, though officially separated and claiming she wants space, continues to call him frequently for emotional support and advice—despite not wanting a relationship. The man, a devoted father to their three-year-old daughter, feels stuck in limbo, emotionally drained and unable to move on. Corey reframes the situation not as a romantic dilemma but as a strategic opportunity to reclaim leadership and create a new dynamic. He advises the listener to ensure all co-parenting logistics are pre-arranged to eliminate unnecessary contact, then to use any non-child-related outreach as a cue to invite her over for dinner—transforming emotional conversations into a date-like setting. The goal, according to Corey, is not reconciliation but creating an opportunity for intimacy and sexual connection, which he frames as the key to re-engaging her interest. He emphasizes that men must stop waiting for permission and instead take initiative, using the 'seven principles' to guide behavior, including letting her do most of the talking and being ready to seduce when signs appear. If she refuses the invitation twice, he recommends a firm boundary-setting message to end the emotional tether and force her to choose between him and her new partner.